All the Single Gay Men, Put Your Hands Up!

I knew there was a reason why I was choosing to be single! After coming out of an 8 year relationship, I thought I would play it smart this time and play the field for the first time since my 20's (also called my mis-spent youth). This has been my credo since I ended things; don't get caught up in the feelings, and give my heart first. I also promised myself that I would not fall into my old patterns of trying to "fix" relationships at the cost of my self worth and getting my needs met.
Well sure enough, a few years later here I am in the process of seriously dating this man that I will only refer to as the Shrinker. I began dating this character just before my eyes went really bad. Initially I thought we had so much in common: he worked in the mental health field for a number of years, he is well-versed in pop culture, and there is a passion to him that takes my breath away to this very day. He recently moved to this area from Washington state, and needless to say we hit it off almost immediately. It felt good to have someone that I could connect with, without having to explain all the craziness I am going through.
And sure enough, as with everything with me, things got crazy. As I have shared with anyone who will listen, I am trying to balance all these roles I have for myself, and sometimes I am not available to the people I care about most. Truth be told, I am only beginning to try to be more consistent in posting at least one blog before the month is gone. It has only been 2 months, and the possessiveness has started. "Why can't you spend the night" "I need constant assurance from you" " When you head down the San Luis Obispo, I want you to take me with you."
To be honest, I told him my situation, and expressed my hesitation about starting a relationship at this time, because of all the demands on me. At the time, he said that he understood, and was sympathetic to me. Now come all these demands. But then I have to ask what is he giving me?
I could say his heart, but let's keep it real; it has only been two months! And as for the SLO, I take off at 4:30 in the morning and head directly to prison. Where is he going to be all day, in the prison parking lot? PLEASE! Oh, and I left this part out: He is still in the CLOSET!!! I seem to be a magnet for every closeted gay man with unresolved attachment issues....
I know my friends have been on me about settling down with a guy, and trying the whole relationship thing again. But with prospects like these, I wonder if I not happier being single, sexy and free? I am still picking all the wrong guys, and trying to make it work.. You would think with several years of being single, three years of therapeutic training and $27,000 in student loans I would be smarter. Well I guess back to the drawing board.. AM I WRONG not to want go through this all over again, or should I stick it out and see what is going on with this guy?